THE INNOCENCE & DILEMMA OF A GIRL IN LOVE...A True Life Story

Work was a bit slow today; being Friday, scanty workload is an expected phenomenon in a typical Government establishment like the one I’m presently doing my compulsory National Youth Service program.

My Place of Primary Assignment isn’t really a big Hospital per se, but always quite busy.
Though the daily flow of Patients into the clinic is constant, I still find time to log online to read the latest gist from the numerous blogs in town.  The good internet service in the workplace serves as a bonus for me and always makes me lose track of time even on Fridays with scanty Patients load…

5pm is the official closing time for the Commission and thus for the Staff Clinic as well.
I really didn’t mind the closing time of 5pm as opposed to the NYSC speculated 2pm for corps members because I was comfortable working in the tiny air-conditioned space niched out for me to perform my daily consultation on the ever friendly patients trotting in to see the new ‘hard working ever-smiling gap-Toothed-Pretty smallie ‘Corper’ Doctor….

I must confess working in the commission has been fun and challenging at the same time….

Unfortunately, today PHCN decided to hold their power and the Generators were all out of service… the heat in my small cubicle-like office was becoming so unbearable that I decided to open the adjourning window with the nurse’s section: that was when I heard two tiny voices involved in a tete-a-tete….

It isn’t in my habit to eavesdrop on people, but the sobbing from one of the ladies caught my attention, so I decided to go ahead and listen to their discussion.

One of the two ladies discussing is the nurse I work with, Nurse J. as I like to call her…In the few months I have spent here in the Commission, her office section can be describe as the gossip center; as much patients troop in to see the doctors, so do ladies come to listen to latest gossips in her office…

“Ya Jane, I can’t live without him; I’ve sacrificed so much in this relationship to end up this way”… the lady said amidst sobbing…

I guess the young lady is younger and look up to Nurse J. as an elder sister who is mature and experienced thus the use of ‘Ya’ in addressing her… I have manage to learn a little bit of Hausa culture in my few months in the Commission as the predominant tribe here is Hausa; so it isn’t surprising that the language most spoken aside English is Hausa Language…Nurse J despite been smallish in statue was already married and having 2 kids in her arsenal…so a lot of the unmarried ladies look up to her for advice concerning relationship.
‘Yaya’ (or ‘Ya’s for short) is the adjective Hausa people use when addressing a female older than them; just like the Yoruba uses ‘Anty’

I could see Nurse J. trying to console her while she sobbed uncontrollably

 “You need to live beyond this stage of your life… in my honest opinion, I don’t think this guy loves you as much as you do love him….I think he is only a childish egoistic male chauvinist” a**hole not deserving of a good girl like you”…Nurse .J could be heard saying...

I struggled to peep through the small slit in the barricade separating our offices so as to get a better view of the little drama unfolding behind the walls…I was able to catch a glimpse of the lady crying….a beautiful fair-skin curvaceous, full breasted lady; probably in her late twenties… the color and glow of her skin show she isn’t an ‘ajekpako’ like most of the girls in the commission; even the sadness in her face couldn’t hide the radiance of her outstanding beauty and elegance…from her looks and attire, you can easily deduce she is from the northern extraction…despite her modest dressing, her well-endowed  body was still quite visible to the unaided eyes…

                                                                                                                             

“Yaya, I have been in love with this guy as long as I can remember; I was thirteen, my world evolves around him and I doubt if I can do without him’’. Walahi ta lai I’ve been totally faithful to him… If he leaves me I swear I’m gonna kill myself….

“Allah ya Kiya ye” (God Forbid)…Nurse J. replied almost shouting…
she drew the lady closer to herself while stretching her hand to fetch an Handkerchief from her handbag lying on the table

“Kada ki taba yi irin wana bazan magana a gabana kuma (don’t ever say such nonsense in front of me again)”
You wanna kill yourself just because of a guy?!!! My dear no man is worth such sacrifice”…Nurse J continued…

“What should I do yaya? I’m totally confuse and lost…where will I begin from?….I don’t know what to do again”…I really love Abu walahi”…the lady replied… now crying profusely like someone who has just been told she has only but a few days to live…

I suddenly started feeling pity for the poor girl…………. I could imagine what she was going through.

I stood there for quite a while listening to her story with keen interest.

She continued sobbing as she poured out her heart to Nurse J…………….. You could feel in her voice and narration that she was indeed in love with the Hausa Dude she was complaining about... I think his name is Abubakar

After eavesdropping on them for about 10 more minutes, I felt I have had enough of the gist and decided to go back to my seat.

Heading back to my seat, the ladies story invoked a nostalgic feeling in me… my past relationship immediately came to mind and induced ‘dysgusia’ giving me a sour taste in my buccal cavity. I became sick and enraged in an unimaginable anger.

I couldn’t place my head on why a lot of good girls will give their body and soul to a guy… make him their world…. Invest emotionally, physically, psychologically and sometimes even financially in a relationship and still get treated like piece of shit by these same guys.

I’m sure a lot of ladies pass through similar experience in the hands of heartless dudes like Mr. Abubakar…

Wonder why a guy will allow a lady suffer this much all because she chose to innocently love him…
Little wonder the popularity of the phrase ‘Men are Scum’…. SOME MEN ARE INDEED SCUM!!!.....

I was just 12years old when I first met him back then in secondary school.

He came as an angel at first, promised me the world; a future filled with so much hope for a long lasting relationship, glamour and expectations….

He made me believed I had found my Knight in shining armor, my Prince charming that will always love and protect me…. But alas, he ended up taking away my innocence and leaving me with ‘just imagine’……

What would you expect from a twelve year old…Lol... MEN...

I am sure you will be wondering if I knew what true love meant at such a tender age. Believe me when I say I was in love….Yes I was in love.

I will be sharing a bit of my story here…hope you get to learn something from me….

…At age 11, I got enrolled into secondary school; I was so overwhelmed with joy when I learnt I was gonna be a boarder student; I had nursed the fantasy of staying in the dormitory as long as I can remember….I was so happy going far from home for the first time in my life….Finally I was gonna be independent; not waking up to see my nanny do everything for me; not having to participate in the morning prayers with half-closed sleepy eyes (funny this part of my expectation turned out to be the reverse…lol); not having my elder siblings bully me around and most importantly, the thought of meeting new friends was heavenly….

It turns out Dormitory lifestyle was a bit different from my expectations…. It was challenging and interesting as well…

I made new friends; helped a lot of them and did stepped on the toes of quite a few…

I was liked by a lot of people so it wasn’t surprising that most of the seniors were fighting to have me as their school daughter… ended up having a handful of them from grade 2 to 6......that helped me evade unnecessary punishments and errands…. You dare not punish me if you don’t wanna end up in the black book of my numerous school mothers….I was their precious little baby…

The first year went by so fast and before I knew it, I was done with grade 1. Got into grade 2 with excellent grades….

Dormitory life was exciting… it helped enhance my jovial nature…. I was that type of girl that enjoyed a lively environment… no dull moment around me; always cheering people up with my endless jokes; I was loved by all even though few senior students saw me as a noisemaker because whenever I was in a gathering I was always the one talking while others listened and laughed uncontrollably… I was the human chatter-box.

On one faithful night in my grade 2, all the students, juniors and seniors alike were in the prep hall reading for the third term exams…. suddenly there was total lights out; the environment became so noisy as students were wondering what could have caused the power outage since it wasn’t time for lights out yet. The senior students tried calming down the unrest in the hall while some senior prefect stepped out to find out what had caused the unusual phenomenon...

As we were waiting patiently to know the cause of the sudden lights out, the school patron and matron walked into the hall using torch-lights to navigate their path.

‘’Good evening students, we sincerely apologize for the lights out;  it was due to a breakdown of our Generator; several efforts have been made to see if we could resolve the problem this night without success. We promise to have it fixed by tomorrow morning. Those of you having any source of light like rechargeable lamps and others should go pick them up from your hostels to enable you complete your studies for the night. Thanks for your understanding’’....Mr. Mbabie the patron, said with his loud husky voice.

After the announcement, the hall suddenly became like a market-place…students and their usual habit of murmuring… before you know it, tiny giggles and grumbling started coming from different corners of the Hall……..

Trust yours truly, me, to always seize such an opportunity to crack my unending very funny jokes to the listening pleasure of my ever loyal ready-for-a-good-laugh classmates’ goons…

As I was dishing out my usual jokes, my classmates were laughing out so loud that we became a side attraction in the hall…I was in the middle demonstrating my narration with hand gesture when he spotted me and asked a junior student among my audience sitting close to him to call me…

I suddenly froze with fear when I realize it was the prefect in charge of the Prep/Dining hall that asked to see me…

“ye mogbe (I’m in soup)…I shouted under my breath….This my big mouth has finally landed me in trouble”

To Be Continued……………………………………………………….

Women With Big Buttocks (Bum Bum) give birth to Smarter Kids: new research reveals

According to a new scientific study, women with large Derrière (a.k.a Booty, Buttocks, Bottom) give birth to smarter kids.

This is according to a recent research conducted by the University of Pittsburgh.

Result from the research revealed that women who have heavier butts have comparatively more intelligent children than their skinnier counterparts. The reason being, that the fat supplies which are located in a woman’s thighs and butt, directly aids the development of the brain in the fetus in utero. The more the fat, the more intelligent the baby. It is a long known fact that the development of the human neurological systems relies heavily on long-chain polyunsaturated fatty acids.
  

An important chemical contained in this log-chain polyunsaturated fatty acid known as Docosahexaenoic acid or DHA enhances the development of the human brain. This  chemical is found in large quantity in the fats of the Thigh and Buttocks.

This fat is a frequently highlighted component of most baby formulas and child nutritional supplements. DHA is a type of Omega-3 fatty acid which is especially crucial for the baby’s first 6 months of life.

The chemical is very important and plays a vital role in the development of the baby’s nervous system as well as the eyes. After birth, babies get this chemical from their mother’s breast milk.

Gone are the days when women with big butts like Hottentot Venus are considered abnormal: aside the fact that possessing a big derriere nowadays is viewed as a cosmetic  blessing, it interesting to know that women with big booty can now be seen as better mates for the purpose of evolution and the human species to flourish. 

Choosing An Eye Doctor: OPTOMETRIST, OPHTHALMOLOGIST OR OPTICIAN

Caring for the eye is a very important part of ensuring a healthy living.

Just like the Bible clearly states in Luke 11:34 "Your eye is the lamp of your body. When your eyes are healthy, your whole body also is full of light; but when they are unhealthy, your body also is full of darkness'.

Therefore we can conclude that choosing an eye care provider is an important health care decision that must be made properly cos you will be entrusting the window to your soul to someone you hope is highly competent to safeguard your precious sense of sight and help you maintain a lifetime of good vision.

In my daily encounter with patients, i noticed there exist some level of ignorance in their understanding of the difference between an Optometrist, Ophthalmologist and Optician. Though each work in unism to provide care for the eyes, their roles are distinctive.

OPTOMETRISTS are healthcare professionals who provide primary vision care ranging from sight testing and correction to the diagnosis, treatment, and management of vision changes. Optometrists receives a doctor of optometry (OD) degree after completion of a 6 years University training after which they embark on a compulsory one year internship program. Qualified optometrists are licensed to practice optometry, which primarily involves performing eye exams/Vision tests, prescribing and dispensing corrective lenses, detecting certain eye abnormalities, and prescribing medications for certain eye diseases.

OPTICIANS are not eye doctors but they play a very vital role in an eye care team. they are technicians trained to design, verify and fit eyeglass lenses and frames, contact lenses, and other devices to correct eyesight. They are not permitted to perform eye test, diagnose or treat eye diseases. they depend on prescription from an Optometrist or Opthalmologist in rendering their services

OPHTHALMOLOGIST are Medical Doctors who specializes in ophthalmology. they perform similar function as the Optometrist and are licensed to perform eye surgeries.

Safeguard your vision,  See an Optometrist Today 

COMPUTER VISION SYNDROME

Computer Vision Syndrome are a complex of eye or vision problems which are experienced during and related to computer use.”

Prolong staring at a computer monitor is the major working modalities in most offices in our modern society.
An average bank cashier for example  spend approximately 8 hours per day (40 hours/week) staring at a computer screen.

Studies in the U.S have shown that 88% of total number of people using computer suffer from computer eyestrain amounting to 4-19% decrease in work productivity.

An Eye test carried out in May 2016 involving 252 Staff members in a commission with approximately 8hrs/day computer use, shows that 64% of the total number of people screened suffers from errors of refraction due to Computer Vision Syndrome.

THE CAUSE
Due to the peculiarity of characters on computer Screen (Pixels) as opposed to printed materials with well defined edges, when using a computer, our eyes tend to involuntarily move to a visual point known as Resting Point of Accommodation (RPA), and then strain to regain focus on the screen. This continuous flexing of the eyes' focusing muscles creates fatigue and the burning, tired-eyes feeling that is so common after long hours at the computer.

Humans blink approximately 22 times per minute normally, however during computer use humans blink only 4 to 6 times per minute. This lower blinking rates cause eye moisture to evaporate thus dry eyes which in turn causes people to arch their foreheads in an effort see better thereby resulting to headaches.

Also prolong computer use results to assumption of awkward, unnatural postures, thus causing sore backs, stiff necks & hurting shoulders.

SYMPTOMS OF COMPUTER VISION SYNDROME

There are several symptoms of CVS; the commonest include

• Eyestrain (sore or tired eyes)
• Tension Headache
• Slowness in focusing on distant object
• Eye irritation presenting as burning, dryness, redness or excess tearing
• Neck, back & shoulder pain
   
  
  
  
  HOW TO MINIMIZE CVS

• Ensure proper positioning of computer screens and adopt a proper sitting position by ensuring your seat is comfortable. A comfortable chair with support for the neck and back will help prevent neck and shoulder strain associated with CVS
• Use proper lighting: keep bright lighting overhead to a minimum: Use Window blinds and get a glare screen: Position the computer screen to reduce reflections from windows or overhead lights: Reduce the amount of Light in the Room: Have lamp focus on the Desk and not on you or the computer screen
• Adjust the brightness of your computer screen to match the brightness of the environment. Keep contrast & brightness at moderate levels
• Blink more often: Tears coating the eye evaporate more rapidly during long non-blinking phases and cause dry eyes. Purposely blink rapidly to re-wets your eyes which will avoid dryness and irritation. 
• Take frequent breaks: adopt the 20/20/20 protocol– every 20 minutes look at something at least 20 feet away for 20 seconds. And Every 50 minutes on a computer, change tasks for 10 minutes.
• Exercise even when sitting: Do some Stretching and joint rotating exercises during computer use
• Keep distance from computer screen at 20-26 inch
• Reduce screen glare by using anti-glare and Keep screen clean 
• Ensure Regular computer eye examination: at least twice a year
• Wear recommended computer glasses: If necessary, wear the appropriate corrective lenses while at the computer.
• If symptoms becomes persistent or severe, consult your doctor for proper evaluation

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